Runaway Outrage? Using a Spray Bottle to Discipline an Autistic Child

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There is a lot of  shock and outrage over the treatment of a special needs child in Deer Park, Texas.  The story made FOX early this morning and their newest, leggy blond was extremely outraged.  I don’t know what the real facts are but I know something about special needs kids and the special needs “system.”

My Downs son is 26 now.  Almost everything my wife and I do and every aspect of our lives is defined by our son.  There is no way to really explain what it has been like raising our special needs boy.  He changed our lives in so many ways.  He really is special, at least to us.

Having said that, from about age 2 to age 15, our son’s behavior was nightmarish.  He was constantly on the edge of being uncontrollable.  He took a series of medications to poor effect, including Ritalin, which nearly killed him.  Our family lived with his destructive, lamp smashing,  obsessive behavior, including self-mutilation and constant feces smearing.  He also was constantly trying to “run away”, a game he played to get our attention.  One Sunday morning, he slipped out while we were asleep.  I found him in the middle of our busy street, sitting down blocking traffic.   I can’t tell you how many times I caught him by the collar or belt as he would suddenly try to bolt away in a parking lot.  As he would twist and squirm, it probably looked like I was being pretty rough.

Nothing the schools, the specialists or the doctors could come up with made a difference.  I have no idea how many school meetings and ARDs my wife and I sat through, the vast majority of which involved little more than documenting this or that “for the record.”

At age 13, a miracle came into our son’s life at his new middle school.  The miracle was in the form of one tough black woman, an aide to the special ed teacher.  In a matter of a few years, she changed everything. With our permission, she used a spray bottle of water (sparingly) to “redirect his attention” when he would be destructive or start to smear.  She would also take his chin in her hand and turn his face to meet her unapproving stare while she gave him very direct instructions.  She put him in work-type overalls for a little less than a year to limit his ability to smear. This made him look like a dufus and stand out like a sore thumb, but she took him out of that ridiculous outfit just as soon as he began to improve.  She said, “I don’t want _my boy_ looking like that because he doesn’t need it any more.”

Today, our son is reasonably well behaved.  He will never be able to live independently… he is ours to love at home forever, however long that is.  That dear lady with the spray bottle (unused now for 11 years) is still in our son’s life. They are very close.

For the autistic child in the Deer Park case, I pray.  I pray for his parents, for the teacher and the aides.   They will need it, no matter what the real facts are.

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Lady Penguin
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March 20, 2012 3:44 pm

Many with this “runaway” outrage are the same type of folks who want to throw parents in jail if they discipline their children. The leftist/progressives have raised almost two generations now of young people who disrespect authority, take no responsibility for behavior and demand everything, while giving nothing.

God Bless you and your family, Sam. Unless one has walked in another person’s shoes…

bobmontgomery
March 20, 2012 4:02 pm

We hope those who read your piece think about it a good long whiile, Sam, for it has application beyond tending to special needs children, beyond even normal child-rearing. Discipline has many facets, and there is purpose for it in all walks of human, even plant and animal life. Christ didn’t give his followers timeouts, but they were Disciples, nonetheless. Rites, rituals and rules all have their purpose.

JadedByPolitics
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March 21, 2012 1:47 pm

Thank you for sharing your story with us here at Unified Patriots, we appreciate the insight 🙂

LadyImpactOhio
March 21, 2012 7:25 pm

Today is World Down Syndrome Day. I always admired Rep. Cathy McMorris Rodgers, not only for her Congressional record and perseverance but that she can also do it all with a Down’s child. Bless you Sam Bowie for your love and patience with this child. I know it is very difficult as I used to live next to a family who had a Down’s child and babysat him periodically just to give his parents a break.