We all know about the theoretical emasculation of men and the feminization of boys in the New Age. We are a gentler nation now, so they say. Somewhere along the way they even came up with a new undegenderization icon called the “metrosexual”, whatever that is. Us Older Americans have a hard time keeping up with the trends.
In some respects it has gotten so dysfunctional and bizarre and inscrutable, we can’t even make sense of it. The latest is that there are movements afoot to virtually erase gender reference and gender role accommodation in early childhood education. Somehow, the up-and-comers are supposed to effortlessly make the transition from there being no boys and no girls at age 5 to getting with the program and using condoms and birth control pills at age 10 and then seamlessly revert back to there being only chairpersons, firepersons and businesspersons at age 18, with the preferred expression of physical and psychological sexual orientation going forward as being ……poly.
Well. Given all that, we are not surprised then at the raging epidemics of bi-polar disorder and schizophrenia, are we? In fact, we wonder why quad-polar and up to at least octo-polar aren’t more prevalent. How in God’s (oops) name are the anthropologists and the physiologists and the behavioralists and the therapists supposed to keep up with all this? Who in their right mind would want to become a doctor of any kind these days?
Anyway, returning to a serious vein and the male of the species, traditionally and conventionally the male was the protector and the provider. Whatever wounds the male psyche suffered at the hands of the Leftists and all their propaganda and programs and schemes over the last two generations, it is amazing that he held up as well as he did. He had to juggle his manly role with his newfound sensitive side. The more conservative psychologists have worried in recent years about that, and about the loss of esteem, or pride, or confidence in the face of the Rise of the Woman. And then there has been the worry about the formation of Boys-to-Men in the proliferating culture of fatherless homes across the land. Yes. Complications and more complications.
But the guys have not completely capitulated and, too, the culture still offers the odd he-man action movie, so manliness is not a completely lost art. And nowhere is it more evident that the cock still strolls the walk than in the arena of US politics. If the recent debt-ceiling debacle isn’t strictly a mano-a-mano-a-mano affair, we don’t know what is. Her Pelosiness can be heard grousing around in the background, but the boys are being boys at this juncture, and you don’t even hear any female names mentioned by the media in all the kerfuffle.
So, shifting our attention to the distaff side, we know that supposedly it was all about them, that Dawning of the Age of Aquarius Feminist Movement and the newfound respect and equal right to this and that and the removal of barriers and presuppositions and Girls’ Nights Out and shared dishwashing chores and the whole nine yards. And while the pandering mantras of affirmative action and constitutional amendments and “You’ve got your own cigarette, now, baby” seemed to signal their ascendancy, we think far too little attention has been paid to the female psyche over the last few decades. For, as much as cracks used to be made about the ‘man of the house, who wears the pants?’ and all that, women really used to be Queens, didn’t they? They really and truly did rule back in the day, at home, in the neighborhood at just about every venue in town. They had their regime thing going and everybody knew what the standing orders were.
Our good friend and advisor Vassar Bushmills likes to relate, as related to him, the perennial and eternal yearning for Man to have his House. To build it and to have it and to pass it on. And the rituals and performances Man may make to satisfy that need. We take the liberty here to suggest that there is a corollary to this involving Wo-man and to see it one must, expecially if one is a man, perform a little mental shift and see, which probably can be corroborated by discerning students of human behavior, as well as by Aunt Edna and any of the ladies around the bridge table, the arrangements and the care the Traditional Woman takes in the trappings and orientation and conduct of her House. And it is a good thing, isn’t it? Purposeful, loving, caring, attentive to detail. And most of the time, it works. It just works. It just flat works. And most of the time it works even if the Man is not there to lift the heavy stuff. Not disavowing the damage done to families by lack of fathering, just observing that women are by and large able to keep it together. Oh, it’s so much better if there’s a Mom and a Dad, but by and large, women take charge. There is a palpable determination there.
But even with their resilience, and even with their encouragement by the culture, is there not a tug on their collective psyche and a jarring of their common sensibility as Wo-men, just as it is for Men, as they perform and compete in not only their former domains, but all the new arenas they enter, whether purposefully or by chance or of necessity. And of those who do purposefully enter them, and especially for our discussion today the political arenas, to take what is always loudly professed by the ‘bipartisan consensus’ as their rightful place in decision-making, coalition-building and governing, there is described this thing called a “glass ceiling.” For all their protestations of equal rights for women, the glass ceiling on the liberal side always seemed to us as not very penetrable. Aside from the show candidacy of Geraldine Ferraro, and finally, after 40 years of feminization, letting the irascible Nancy Pelosi strut a few turns, that caucus is really no more inclusive than your average back room poker club. Hillary? Well, too bad about that. The business world is really much more progressive in that regard, as is, increasingly, the conservative wing of the Republican Party (not to definitively mix the conservative/progressive ideologies).
And now we arrive at the contributions from the girls on the Right Side of the Issues, and the Rodney Dangerfield complex they must be experiencing. The likes of Sarah Palin, and only slightly to a lesser extent Michelle Bachmann, have given spotlight to traditional conservatism in a manner and sum pretty remarkable the past three years. In our humble opinion, despite whatever shortcomings people like to attribute to them, these women have taken the cards given them by the current political and economic situations and played them exceedingly well. They have been an inspiration to both women and men and have been consistent, unwavering, true and determined. There are others on the national scene, identified as ‘Tea Partiers” or the ‘favorites of the Tea Partiers’. And then there are just the ‘worker bee’ tea party-type women. Those maintaining and ordering thier own private Houses and also giving out with that hard-to-describe quality, that sense of ‘this is the way things ought to be, and are going to be,’ that made the manly John Boehner the Speaker of his beloved House.
Who knows, who could know, how much these women, from all their different stations, have given? If you interviewed them individually and collectively and studied the results, you might get a bit of a feel. But nobody knows, and the normal conservative mouthpieces, putting aside for a moment their on-again-off-again bashing of the national figurines, in the same manly spirit as the Left-Wing Mediaites and Agendaites do it, have made the dialogue about the current fulminations in the debt ceiling “crisis” one of some sexless examination of “da Tea Party’s influence”. Oh, but it is a little bit more complex than that.
In the old days, the quip used to be that ‘ behind every successful man, there is a woman.’ In these modern times, the chant is “Women are equal partners in the affairs of …….. business, church, education……governing, et cetera.” The latter is growing more true all the time. What the commentators, analysts and pundits are leaving out is that the new awareness among the conservative ranks, the new urgency, the new insurgency, is a lot of times spearheaded by women at certain key points. There are some righty women governors and newly-minted members of Congress who can knock your socks off on conservative principles. And the activists sprouting up all over the country in the Republican Party, the various Tea Parties, and in the blogosphere are of a quality and steadfastness and with an inner sense of purpose that us male observers who have tried still can’t define in words It just is. And upon reflection, somehow it always was, wasn’t it? Even if some of them may have flung themselves around the Maypole on Earth Day a time or two, that’s all it was – a fling. They know that our America is a way of life.
Some of the sayers are just now coming around to saying that, regardless of the Us v. Them scoreboard and bragging rights and posturing for 2012, the environment and the atmosphere and the possibilities existing today would be in no sense as viable as some think they are without the Tea Parties. A lot of the talk like that may be just more of the George Will School of “We, love ya and need ya guys, but tone it down a little next year, will ya?” Whatever. But curiously, despite the fact that all you have to do is be a man-on-the-street and step back up on the curb and look at the parade passing by and think of the inspiration and the events and the cast of characters over the past couple of years, you can see women still aren’t getting their propers.
As a little side note, but still on topic, consider that while several, if not many, of the tea party- affiliated female candidates who were bashed as being underqualified or not up to it and eventually didn’t win, what had to happen for them to lose? Anecdotally, the case can be made that the Republican establishment had to spurn them, the media had to demonize them, the opposition campaigns had to not only lie about them but to lie about the underlying premises of the debates they engaged in, and the Democrat Machine/Union cabal had to manufacture a suitable number of ballots. Rodney Dangerfield? In spades. The Lord really gave them a mountain this time.
We will submit that we as a movement don’t yet know how deep the well is and just how much the ladies have in their picnic baskets to bring to the table. We remark upon occasion about the grit of this or that individual, like a Nikki Haley, or a Michelle Malkin. We congratulate ourselves on our appreciation of the cheek from Ann Coulter. But if we just be still for a moment, we might sense, not only among the Queens on the stage but among the gals in the trenches here with us, the quiet resolve to keep and maintain the House. They are everywhere and always. And it might behoove us, and our betters in the elite conservative establishment on the odd occasion, to show our softer side like the Libs tell us we should and mutter a few words of appreciation. These gals really, when all is said and done, don’t ask for a lot, and we swear by all that is righteous and good that they are truly……holding the line.
Note: This post is dedicated to a valued fair and fine member of our group currently engaged in a personal battle. We are sure she would encourage our sisters (and brothers) about the neighborhood and across the nation to heed the advice of one of the stalwarts in the conservative movement to use whatever lulls there are in the battle to ……………Reload!